Ah, now the thing about the sex drive I can explain. Sort of.
The second wave of feminism carried this weird belief that, since men were apparently the only ones who got enjoyment out of sex, all sex between men and women was therefore rape. So, any woman with a sex drive is a woman who wishes to be raped, and therefore give power to men and relinquish power from women and oh god I can't believe people think this.
I mean, the main problem I have with that is that, one of the things men pride themselves on (and this is over the course of history, not just the 21st Century) is their ability to pleasure the woman. In the Victorian era, it was thought that a woman could only get pregnant if she enjoyed the sex, so there was pressure on men to perform and get lots of kids to show off. It's where the whole 'My cock is bigger than yours I can give more pleasure to the woman HA!' thing comes from.
Come on, you don't hear men boasting about how much they pleasured themselves, it's always about how much they pleasure the woman. This is common sense, people!
And the 'Saffrom versus Wash = Feminist!' thing hurts. Does she realize how thoughts like that turn the word 'feminism' into something pariah and dirty? That women refer to themselves as 'egalitarian' rather than 'feminist' to escape that stigma? Those beliefs hurt women's rights, rather than help, because they just portray those of us looking for equality as being insane and sexist!
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Date: 2010-08-16 01:50 am (UTC)The second wave of feminism carried this weird belief that, since men were apparently the only ones who got enjoyment out of sex, all sex between men and women was therefore rape. So, any woman with a sex drive is a woman who wishes to be raped, and therefore give power to men and relinquish power from women and oh god I can't believe people think this.
I mean, the main problem I have with that is that, one of the things men pride themselves on (and this is over the course of history, not just the 21st Century) is their ability to pleasure the woman. In the Victorian era, it was thought that a woman could only get pregnant if she enjoyed the sex, so there was pressure on men to perform and get lots of kids to show off. It's where the whole 'My cock is bigger than yours I can give more pleasure to the woman HA!' thing comes from.
Come on, you don't hear men boasting about how much they pleasured themselves, it's always about how much they pleasure the woman. This is common sense, people!
And the 'Saffrom versus Wash = Feminist!' thing hurts. Does she realize how thoughts like that turn the word 'feminism' into something pariah and dirty? That women refer to themselves as 'egalitarian' rather than 'feminist' to escape that stigma? Those beliefs hurt women's rights, rather than help, because they just portray those of us looking for equality as being insane and sexist!