I'm rather tired of tough girls being able to overpower men and still getting a "wouldn't hit a girl" pass.

That was an awesome spite-fic! (and Jack wasn't half bad at all!) :D

The trope you mentioned was beautifully subverted in Scott Lynch's The Lies of Locke Lamora. The book features a scene in which the city's head spy is trying to coerce a criminal into cooperation, by showing him an artefact he desperately needs. She automatically puts so much fate in the "wouldn't hit a girl" trope, that it comes to her as a genuine surprise when the man simply knocks her out, grabs said artefact, and jumps out the window.